Nigerian preacher and marriage counsellor, Reverend Funke Felix-Adejumo, has said pastors should stop advising people to remain in abusive marriages.
This is as she advised people in abusive relationships to run for their lives.
Felix-Adejumo said this in reaction to the news of the death of gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu who allegedly died as a result of domestic violence.
Reacting to the news surrounding Osinachi’s death, Felix-Adejumo said, “Woman you are not inferior to anybody. Don’t think that marriage is all that makes you. Please understand that you are important with or without marriage. Don’t die in any abusive relationship.”
She also called on those who have spiritual authority over people to stop telling them to stay in abusive relationships.
“I am not a pastor but a pastor’s wife. I’ve been a pastor’s wife for 33 years. I want to say this to those of you that are privileged to have spiritual authority over people, please stop telling them to stay in abusive relationships and be praying,” she said.
“If they were your blood relatives, would you tell them to stay there. How can you as a pastor and someone tells you that ‘my husband is beating me, my wife has brought out a knife’ and you tell the person to stay there, we will be praying for you. God can never hear that kind of prayer. That is abuse of power.
Speaking further, she said, “Submission is not subjugation, submission is not slavery. The fact that you are the head of a relationship does not mean that you should kill the body in the name of religion.”